lola houston


live a true life

coaching, counseling and education for individuals and couples


Understand deeply. Live what you learn. Immerse yourself into a richer experience.


Learning who you are, either as an individual or in a relationship, takes practice. We don't always know what we want, and often have a difficult time saying "yes" and "no". Most of us have learned that "okay" is the safest answer.


Working together, we can unwrap the inner you, and rediscover the joy, curiosity and playfulness you already have.

Find expansion and joy in learning and experiencing:
  • • yes and no
  • THE POWER OF NO



    Are you "okay" with "okay"? Most of us navigate our life with "okay". What if you could discover your own inner power to say "no" when you did not want something, and "yes" when you really did want something? Learning the power of NO can be transformative. Suddenly, you have choices. Spouses, partners and friends will start to recognize that your "yes" is something they can trust, because your "no" is completely honest. Don't live in the "okay zone". Discover the wonderful power of NO.
    While this work is geared toward individuals and couples, I offer this for many different audiences - individual, small group, classroom, or larger organization.

    INDIVIDUAL sessions are arranged on an as-requested basis.

    WORKSHOPS are designed to introduce participants to these fundamental ideas. Workshops run a minimum of 4 hours.

  • • gender
  • GENDER



    Gender is much, much more than a simple binary. "Male" and "female" may be the way we have designed our own taxonomy, but many of us already recognize the limitations of this approach. There are lots of departures from what most of us call "normal", and recognizing that sex is not equal to gender is more than words. If you are strugging with identity, language, respect, and how to understand others, or if you're a group, organization or state or corporate entity that requires educating or training to better navigate this topic, learning how language and behavior shapes our perceptions and impacts others and how to change deeply embedded patterns is a good place to begin this process.
    This work can be at many different levels - individual, small group, classroom, or larger organization.

    INDIVIDUAL sessions are arranged on an as-requested basis.

    WORKSHOPS are designed to introduce participants to these fundamental ideas. Workshops run a minimum of 4 hours.

  • • consent
  • • relationships
  • RELATIONSHIPS



    Being "in a relationship" has many different levels of meaning. Our intimate relationships ask more of us: to be present, aware, compassionate, patient. Whether you are currently partnered or seeking to be partnered, whether monogamous or trying to manage open relationships or polyamory, it's hard work. You can bring your true, best self to others. Begin with simple exercises. Discover the power of "no". Learn true giving and receiving.
    This particular offering is geared toward individuals, couples or polyamorous groups.

    INDIVIDUAL and COUPLES sessions are arranged on an as-requested basis.

    WORKSHOPS are designed for specific group needs

  • • touch **
  • THE GIFT OF TOUCH



    Are you okay with "okay"? What if you could ask for exactly what you wanted and allow yourself the chance to fully receive it?
    This particular offering can be individual or couples work, a workshop or a weekend.
    Here, you will discover the real meaning of the gift, how to ask for it, and what giving and receiving really mean.

    INDIVIDUAL or COUPLES sessions are arranged on an as-requested basis.

    WORKSHOPS are designed to introduce participants to these fundamental ideas. Workshops can range from 1.5 hours to 3 hours.

    WEEKENDS are structured to meet the needs of a specific community and generally run 2 to 2 1/2 days, each day a full day of hands-on experiential learning with discussion and practice.

    bodywork and somatics

How we work together

We begin with a conversation and mutual trust. Your situation matters.

Together, we decide the value you place on what we do. 


Please note that some offerings and methods involve a sequence that requires several steps to completion.

All work begins with a complimentary 30 minute introduction: what are your needs? are we a good fit?